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Rosh Hashanah Evening 5767

Being at Peace with God

Now that we are 5 years out from the catastrophe of 9/11 we are in a position to reflect back and draw lessons from that horrific event. The element of surprise and the extent of loss of civilian lives as well as utter destruction were unprecedented on these shores. The pathological nature of the perpetrators and the bizarre though effective strategy of crashing our own airplanes, filled with innocent civilians into the World Trade Center and Pentagon transformed what would have been a glorious day into our worst nightmare.

I suspect we would still be haunted by the depths of depravity to which human beings could sink, were it not for the counter balancing incredible stories of heroism that transformed this tragedy into a triumph of the human spirit. Unlikely heroes discovered courage and fortitude they had no idea they possessed. Due to cell phones the passengers on Flight 93 became aware of their doomed destiny. They said their sad good byes to loved ones, then realizing they were headed to our nation’s capital to blow up the White House or Capitol, they said, “Let’s roll,” and stormed the terrorists, sacrificing their lives that others would live.

I could go on for hours but I won’t, recounting acts of heroism that took place at the World Trade Center. I’m glad that film maker, Oliver Stone in his movie tribute to New York’s finest: police and fire fighters focused on just two heroes. It is easier to comprehend. No one could have been prepared for something like this. When a group of Port Authority security guards arrived at the World Trade Center, John McLoughlin asked who from the group would join him to try to save lives. There was a pregnant pause. Chances were they wouldn’t come out. Several stepped up, as if they were stating, “Hineni, you can count on me.” Shortly after they entered, the buildings collapsed burying 2,700+ innocent people.

John McLoughlin and his colleague Will Jimeno were pinned under concrete, steel and debris, not to mention pervasive dust and fires burning around them. For several days they were fading, but holding on to hope. They knew there would be rescuers 90 feet above. In an interview with Newsweek Magazine, Will Jimeno confided, “I knew if I fell asleep I’d be dead, but it was ok, “I had made my peace with God.”

“I had made my peace with God.” How many of us could say that, and mean it? Here was a man who clearly committed himself to a career in which he was called on to risk his life to help others. When tested, he replied, “Hineni,” so to speak. In what ways have we been tested? How did we respond? What do we need to do to make our peace with God?

These Yamin Noraim, Days of Awe, challenge us to review our actions, our attitudes, our lives. And where we have gone astray from the charted course, there is still time to make amends, to engage in genuine teshuvah, to right the course. Unetaneh tokef, in tomorrow’s liturgy, more than any other prayer, jars us from our moral lethargy. It not only speaks to where we’ve been, it imagines where we are destined. And our fates aren’t always pretty. It asks, “Who will live and who will die…. Who will be tranquil and who troubled?” In other words who will be at peace with God? The prophet Isaiah put it this way. “In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” Unetaneh tokef concludes encouraging us to influence the upcoming chapter in our lives for good through teshuva, tefilah and tzedaka.  You can check off tefilah, prayer.  You’re here tonight. 

Life is frighteningly tenuous. No doubt you heard several months ago about David Sharp, the fellow on an expedition to climb Mt. Everest. He fell near the top, broke his leg and lie there barely breathing the thin air. Sharp was slightly conscious, shivering violently, his teeth clenched, his nose turned a deep black. 40 other climbers stopped, considered helping, but feared they’d never make it to the top or back down, and went on. He was for all intents and purposes left for dead. Eventually, sherpas brought him down, and shortly thereafter, David Sharp was declared dead.

Are there people we have left suffering by the side of the road, as we continued our journey? Perhaps, there are specific individuals that come to your mind. If not, as a community we all recall Bill Walsh, the homeless man who froze to death here in Waterford, about 3 miles from here. When funds ran out and the winter shelter was closed last March, Walsh went into the woods behind Stop and Shop. May he rest in peace.

Life is precarious. Last spring a group of college students in Indiana perished when a semi truck crossed the median and collided with their van.. One girl survived. Heavily bandaged and in a coma, she was mistaken for another girl who resembled her blond hair and blue eyes. Would you believe it took several weeks before the correct identity was made? The survivor, Whitney Clark,  has recovered. In fact, she is back at Taylor University. I can only imagine the confused joy of her parents, who held a funeral for what they thought was their daughter. And, I cannot begin to imagine the grotesque pain of the bereaved parents who thought their daughter had survived. Unetaneh tokef reminds us that we know not who will live and who will die.

Will Jimeno, after being retrieved from Ground Zero, spent several months that were touch and go in the hospital. His family was called in more that once to say their good byes. Thankfully, today he has recovered considerably.

It makes us wonder, if we knew that we might lose a loved one in an untimely fashion how would we act differently? An unknown author composed these words:

If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep, I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time, I could spare an extra minute or two to stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming, you would know I do.

There will always be another day to say “I love you’s.”

But just in case I might be wrong, and today is all I get, I’d like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget, Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike, And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved ones tight.”

And what if we found out that our precious days were numbered? I am not all that familiar with Country and Western music, but every now and then a C & W song captures my attention. Often the words come from the singer’s heart and go directly to ours. Such was the case for me when I first heard Tim McGraw’s uplifting message. “Live Like You Were Dying.” It is especially meaningful knowing that Tim’s father was former New York Mets relief pitcher Tug McGraw who died way before his time. I won’t sing, but permit me to share some of the lyrics:

He said, I was in my early forties

With a lot of life before me

When a moment came that stopped me on a dime

And I spent most of the next days

Looking at the x-rays

And talking ‘bout the options, talking

‘bout sweet time

And I asked him when it sank in

That this might really be the end

How’s it hit ya’ when you get that kind of news.

Man, what’d you do (he said)

I went sky diving. I went Rocky Mountain climbing.

I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fumanchu.

And I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter

And I gave forgiveness I’d been denying.

And he said one day I hope you get a chance

To live like you were dying.

In living life to its fullest, we also need to set aside time for causes we hold dear. A legacy is not the result of one action. It is the outcome of a lifetime of worthy acts. The Reverend Martin Luther King Jr., was shot down at age 39, in his prime. He left as large a legacy as anyone. And he left us this bit of advice. “Our lives begin to end the day we are silent about things that matter.”

Humans have yearned for immortality ever since Adam and Eve are said to have lost it due to their dessert choice. Someone commented, “It wasn’t the apple in the tree, but the pair on the ground that brought on their expulsion from the garden. To their credit, once on their own, Adam and Eve discovered the satisfaction that comes from working by the sweat of their brow. They knew both the pleasures and challenges of family life. In time, they joined deceased son Abel and learned the meaning of the soul’s life eternal.

What awaits us beyond our purviews? Here are 10 questions God won’t be asking you:

“1. God won’t ask what kind of car you drove;

    God will ask how many people you drove who didn’t have

    transportation.

2. God won’t ask the size of your house,

    God will ask how many people you welcomed into your home.

3. God won’t ask about the clothes you had in your closet,

    God will ask how many you helped to clothe.

4. God won’t ask what your highest salary was,

    God will ask if you compromised your character to obtain it and whether you shared with those less fortunate..

5. God won’t ask what your job title was,

    God will ask if you performed your job to the best of your

    ability.

6. God won’t ask how many friends you had,

    God will ask how many people to whom you were a friend.

7. God won’t ask in what neighborhood you lived,

    God will ask how you treated your neighbors.

8. God won’t care about the color of your skin,

    God will care about the content of your character.”

9. God won’t ask how much overtime you worked,

    God will ask if you were there for and with your family.

10. God won’t ask what you did when others were watching,

      God will know what you did when they weren’t."

Rosh Hashanah ushers in a new year. Now is the time to demonstrate our gratitude for this precious gift of time. May we use it wisely, living life to its fullest, loving our family and friends, caring about those in need, and this year may we all be at peace with God.

Amen

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Rosh Hashanah Morning, 5767

Israel, What Went Wrong? Getting it Right!

For Jews today is the 1st day of the year 5767.  For Muslims today is the first day of the holy month of Ramadan. The more I learn about authentic Islam, the more I realize its resemblance to Judaism.  Yet, the more I come to understand radical Muslims, those sometimes referred to as Islamists or Jihadists, or the misnomer Islamo-fascists, I see in those proponents of terror the antithesis of Judaism—and Islam. 

In light of current conflicts it is ironic that Jews and Muslims share a common progenitor, Avraham Avinu, Abraham, Ibrahim, our mutual forefather. Our Orthodox and Conservative coreligionists read in the torah today how Avraham sent his first born, Ishmael, into the wilderness along with Ishmael’s mother, Hagar.  Tomorrow, they will read the Akeda, the Binding of Isaac, which we read today.  Did you know that the Quran tells the story of Ibrahim binding Ishmael?  Incidentally, Islamic tradition holds that Ishmael with the help of Ibrahim went on to Mecca and there set up the Kaaba Stone, to which devout Muslims make a hajj, a pilgrimage.

One clear difference between Judaism and Islam can be found in the etymologies of the names Israel and Islam.  You may recall when Jacob survived his wrestling match with a so-called angel, he was renamed “Yisrael,” one who strives with the divine and prevails. A Muslim, on the other hand is one who “submits” to God’s will and achieves salaam.  Avraham had no compunction challenging Adoni.  When God confided his plan to destroy the sinners of Sodom and Gamorah, Avraham defended the innocent.  “Will you sweep away the innocent along with the guilty?...Shall not the Judge of all the earth deal justly?”

Lest we presume Avraham to be a pacifist, we can note that earlier when his nephew Lot was kidnapped along with other local leaders, Avraham rallied the troops and liberated his kin and his peers. 

Avraham is a complex character.  In the Akeda in his zeal to demonstrate loyalty to God, Avraham “submits” readily nearly sacrificing his precious son Isaac.  A writer of modern midrash, Lori Ubell, imagines Sarah sensing tzuros, seeks to save her family.  Ubell suggests that Sarah arrived at the mountain top just in time.  The voice of the angel was, Ubell surmises, none other than the voice of Sarah, “Avraham, Avraham…do not raise your hand against the boy, or do anything to harm him!” 

Life is sacred!  Abrahamic religions, be it Judaism, Christianity or Islam, affirms this.  Yet, in our zeal we can lose sight of life’s sanctity inadvertently hurting others, and in turn hurting ourselves.  Rosh Hashanah is Yom Hadin, Day of Judgment.  It is a time for brutal honesty as we scrutinize the past year. 

War, that mysterious human need to fight others, once again has reared its ugly head  This past summer our Israeli sisters and brothers, yet again were engaged in battle, the 10th milchama in less than 6 decades.  This was unlike any conflict Israel had faced.  The foes were not Palestinians, nor were they a neighboring nation.  Hezbollah, the so-called Party of God, is comprised of fundamentalist Shiite Muslims who have taken over Southern Lebanon.  To their credit, they provide many human services such as schools and clinics, and have democratically elected representatives in the Lebanese Parliament.  To their discredit, they are a pawn of Iran and ideologically desire to erase Israel from the map. 

Mind you Israel totally vacated Lebanon 6 years ago.   Sheik Hassan Nasrallah, the charismatic Hezbollah demagogue, now admits his error in sending his guerilla troops into Israel July 12th.  He never expected, he now confides, that Israel would retaliate for Hezbollah killing 8 members of the Israel Defense Forces and kidnapping Ehud Goldwasser and Eldad Regev.  Israelis had had it with Hezbollah.  6 years of shelling the Galilee had been chipping away at Israeli savlanut, patience.  The killing and kidnapping were the last straw. 

Israelis were unified to rescue the kidnapees and while they were at it to crush or at least disarm Hezbollah.  After all they have less than a thousand guerillas.  Now that the cease fire has been signed and the dust has settled, the fallout is disturbing:

Who won?  There are no winners in wars, only survivors.  In this season of cheshbon hanefesh, soul searching Israelis of all political persuasions are asking, “Ma kara, wha’ happened?”

In previous battles Israel possessed superior trained forces, armaments and military leadership.  The positive outcomes were predictable.  But here, neither objective: retrieving the kidnapped nor disarming Hezbollah occurred.  Maybe, Judah Macabee could have warned, “In a battle between a conventional army and a guerilla one, the smart money is on the guerillas.”

Especially when they don’t play by the rules.  You may have seen the comic circulating on the internet.  Two soldiers with baby carriages are pointing machine guns at each other.  The difference is that the Israeli is infront of the carriage, while the Hezbollah guerilla is behind it.  With guerillas and their weapons embedded in schools, hospitals and apartment building, Israel faced a moral dilemma.  WWJD?  What would Judaism have us do?  We can hear Avraham’s conscience asking, “Would you sweep away the innocent along with the guilty?” 

In Deuteronomy Chapter 20 we find Laws of Warfare.  The torah teaches that non-combatants be permitted to leave the arena of war.  Israel dropped leaflets over sites designated to be bombed.  May fled, including the guerillas.  Unfortunately, far too many civilians remained.  Hence, disgustingly high numbers of children and women as collateral damage. 

Hezbollah is not a nation and therefore has not pledged to abide by the Geneva conventions.  But they claim to be devout Muslims.  They should know that indiscriminate targeting of non-combatants such as the residents of the Galilee, is forbidden by shariah, Islamic law.  Likewise, suicide bombers, perpetrators of the 9/11catastrophe, and indeed those Muslims who even condone these atrocities have committed not only crimes against humanity, but have demeaned the noble values that are truly fundamental to Islam. 

It concerns me that there are those in the Jewish community who would excuse the devastation in Lebanon.  I am concerned that the Rabbinic Council of America, the voice of modern Orthodox rabbinate in the US, released this statement, “Because Hezbollah puts Israeli men and women at extraordinary risk of life through unconscionably using their own civilians, hospitals, and mosques as human shields, we believe that Judaism would neither require not permit a Jewish soldier to sacrifice himself in order to save deliberately endangered enemy civilians.”  Can you hear Avraham plea, “Will you sweep away the innocent along with the guilty?”

It is blasphemous when some Islamic clerics, imams and mullahs fan the flames of hatred and violence.  One would hope that strong, influential Muslim spiritual leaders would preach salaam and engage in true jihad, not holy war, but struggle with the forces that encourage us to hate and hurt. 

In our Bible it was commanded that before the Israelite army could engage in warfare, the priests needed to read to the assembled troops the rules of what was ethically permitted in warfare and what was prohibited.  That interaction between religion and the military created the foundation of what later became known as “just war theory.”

Rabbi Mark Warshovsky, Hebrew Union College Talmud professor, elucidates these principles of the just war:

Leonard Fein is perhaps the most astute analyst of the American Jewish scene.  He observed, “There are two kinds of Jews.  One wants an Israel which is militarily strong, capable of defending itself and strong enough to defeat any enemy, an Israel that is tough enough to do what has to be done for its survival.  The other wants an Israel which is a beacon of justice and righteousness, which affirms the humanity of all, friend and enemy, which prides itself on its civility and its compassion.”  Fein thinks that most of us are both kinds of Jews and he hopes that it stays that way. 

Harry Danziger, President of the Central Conference of American Rabbis, adds, “I hope that we will not have become so caught up in the justified concern for Israel’s safety that we can no longer feel the anguish of Lebanese civilians who have been killed or wounded or bereaved in what is called ‘collateral damage.’  And I hope that we will not have become so troubled by the innocent deaths caused by Israel’s actions that we forget that Israel acted to protect its own citizens from a terrorist organization and its state-sponsors, enemies openly committed to the destruction of Jews and the Jewish state.” 

We can understand the frustrations of Israelis demanding an investigation into what went wrong.  Long hours in poorly ventilated shelters frayed nerves of Galilean civilians.  Have the invincible Israeli Defense Forces discovered their Achilles heal?  Were Prime Minister Ehud Olmert and Defense Minister Amir Peretz, insufficiently militarily savvy for the job?  Should the air strategy have been replaced by ground troops?  Did Israel suffer in the PR war by taking out Lebanese infrastructure along with residential targets? 

We know that Nasrallah regretted provoking this confrontation.  I wonder if Olmert similarly has second thoughts about retaliating.  In a conference call with rabbis the other day I heard Olmert express relief that at least the Lebanese army and international forces now patrol southern Lebanon, and the katyushas no longer are being launched.

We stand at the dawn of a new year.  We reflect back on the unpredictable circumstances of 5766.  Who could have imagined:

That following Israel’s withdrawal, the Gazans would choose to lob rockets on Israeli settlements rather than develop their land.

That Prime Minister Ariel Sharon would slip into a coma, and be missed as a centrist seeking peace.

That Palestinians would hold democratic elections and select the radical Hamas, who don’t even recognize Israel, over Fatah, the party of the late Yasir Arafat, now perceived as too moderate by the people. 

And that war would emerge on Israel’s border with Lebanon. 

We know not what 5767 will bring.  Kohelet stated, “There is a time for war and a time for peace.”  We are tired of war.  Let there be peace! Avraham engaged in battle to free Lot, his nephew and surrogate son.  Avraham also was a model for reconciliation.  When his shepherds quarreled with Lot’s shepherds, he sought a peaceful win-win solution.  There is enough land for everyone.

May 5767 be a time for healing.  May Ehud Goldwasser, Eldad Regev and Gilad Shalit, who was kidnapped to Gaza, come home safely.  May we be agents of the rebuilding process.  I am delighted that Temple Emanu-El is giving $3,500 to Israel relief.  I encourage all of us to give generously to the Israel Emergency Campaign of the Jewish Federation of Eastern Connecticut and the Israel Emergency Fund of our Union for Reform Judaism.  Also, may we all be knowledgeable advocates for Israel’s cause. And while we do this, may we realize that Palestinians deserve to live in dignity, with in a viable state of their own.  And may the Palestinian people come to live in dignity and security in their own country.

The Machzor offers us an outline for helping write the next chapter of life:

May these pave the way to shalom for us, our families, our community, this country, for Israel and for the entire world.

Amen!

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Yom Kippur Evening, 5767

Babylonian Exile, Now Why are We Fighting?

Imagine, there is a world out in space which is an exact duplicate of our own.  It is populated by women and men, boys and girls, much like ourselves.  They too reflect the rich human diversity of races, religions and nations.

They differ from us in only one respect.  They don’t have weapons.  No bombs or bombers, no ak47s or m16s.  Not even a bullet.  With no need for warfare, they devote an enormous amount of energy and resources to human welfare, caring for people in need.  As a result, over 60% of national budgets are used to feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, care for the environment, and train people for more productive lives. And billions of dollars are used to conquer disease.  Cancer and Aids are but a distant memory.  And you should see the well equipped schools.  Teachers have been complaining that they are paid too much. 

Curiously, with all this money available for taking care of the poor, for protecting the environment, for medical research and treatment, and for outstanding education for all, there just doesn’t seem to be a need for charity. 

I suppose people could take up collections for armaments, or hold fundraisers for tanks, missiles and bombs, but why bother.  Isn’t it a shame though, they never will know the glory of war. 

This Space Fantasy was conceived by the rabbi of my youth, Rabbi David Polish, alav hashalom. It makes us wonder, what is the matter with us humans that at any one time there are a dozen devastating wars plaguing our planet?  And in a normal lifespan, we Americans hardly go for a decade of peace, that is 7 or more opportunities to kill or be killed in one’s life.  The ‘80’s were a dormant period, but in 1983 we did get to flex our muscles against that bully Grenada.  Didn’t our parents tell us that it is not nice to hit others?

The enemy is invariably demonized as evil incarnate. And so we protect ourselves and our friends, by getting them before they get us. Funny, we don’t sleep any better, even when we do what we feel is necessary.  The elder statesman of Israel, Vice Prime Minister Shimon Peres, once reflected, “Our enemy is not a religion or a people.  Our enemy is war and hatred and bloodshed.” 

In the Book of Ecclesiastes, the somewhat cynical Kohelet observed, “For everything there is a season, a time for every experience under heaven:  A time to be born and a time to die,…a time for loving and a time for hating, a time for war and a time for peace.”  Meanwhile, the Psalmist charged, “Seek peace and pursue it!”  I would like to think that our passion for shalom expressed so eloquently in torah, midrash, talmud and liturgy has impacted our psyches and we have become the people for whom manhood is marked not by striving to be a macho man, but a mentch, a gentleman, a gentle man, or woman. 

One would like to think that as civilization progresses and we discover the means to drive cars, fly planes, create radio, television, computers, ipods and cell phones, humans would likewise find ways to resolve conflict other than by taking innocent lives.  And yet the last century belies that notion. What we call World War I was supposed to be the war to end all wars.  And yet, a couple of decades later cataclysmic, world wide war was once more reared its ugly head. 

WWII demonstrates even to the pacifist that Kohelet was right, “There is a time for war.”   It is a last resort, it is for self-defense, it is when the likes of Hitler and Nazi Germany pose a threat not just to Jews, but to humankind. I am proud that my father Leo Rosenberg, alav hashalom, served as a marine in WWII. Ironically, he was one of the gentlest men I’ve known.

Recently, I saw the movie Jarhead, which portrays marines in the first Gulf War, Operation Desert Storm.  It is an alarming but riveting film about the discipline, loyalty, violence and moxie in Marine life. A neophyte being hazed is tricked into believing that his bunkmates have branded USMC on him.  He is left confused, when they say, “You don’t get it that easy. You have to earn it.”  During the chaos and brutality of a battle scene, the Staff Sergeant confides in one of his privates, “I could have taken a job with a fat salary with my brother, but there is no way, that I would ever miss this action.  I live for it.  I love it.”  Later two snipers are sent to take out two enemy leaders in a tower.  They have been trained for just this moment.  They have the enemy in their sites, the rush of adrenalin is running through them, they are about to shoot, when soldiers from another outfit pull rank and choose to explode the tower.  The two snipers return to their colleagues, to find that they are celebrating for the war has just ended. The snipers though are in a funk.  They are dejected because they didn’t get to kill the enemy.  It is one thing for Osama Bin Laden to relish in the taking of human life, but aren’t we better than that?

This summer I saw another film, a documentary called, Why We Fight, the winner of the 2005 Sundance Film Festival.  It begins with President Dwight David Eisenhower’s final message to the country.  What would the Commander in Chief, the former Chief of the Allied Troops during WWII have to say?  He coined an expression we have come to know well.  He warned our society to be wary of the intertwining of “the military industrial complex.”  And he had never heard of Halliburton, Vice President Cheney’s former company that gets so many no-bid contracts. No wonder Cheney’s net worth went from $1 million to $60 in 5 years with the firm.  Nor did Ike imagine that the Defense Budget would be ¾ of a trillion dollars.  The US spends more on defense than the rest of all the other countries put together.  And you know what, it doesn’t make us any safer.

We just observed the 5th anniversary of 9/11.  The question I heard people asking was, “Are we safer today?”  I know this: Just after 9/11 other than a few insane Islamic extremists, outcasts in their own countries, the world stood with us. After 9/11 a million people stood in solidarity with the United States, in Teheran, Iran.  That is the emes.  And now with their meshugener Prime Minister Mahmoud Ahmadinejad saber rattling, doubting the Holocaust, aspiring for nuclear power and threatening to wipe Israel off the map, we are truly af tzuros. 

Pursuing Al Qaida in Afghanistan seems to have been a worthy, although not entirely successful venture. However, polls are demonstrating that a majority of Americans are now questioning the sagacity of entering Iraq.  Clearly Sadam Hussein had nothing to do with 9/11.  Nor did he have Weapons of Mass Destruction. Was he a tyrannical dictator? Yes.  Did he deserve to be deposed?  Perhaps, but at what cost.  And I am not talking about the 100’s of Billions of dollars spent.  Nearly the same number of Americans who perished in 9/11 has come back in body bags.  We have placed some of our bravest young men and women in harm’s way.  Have we rebuilt the cities? The villages? The infrastructure?  Hardly.  Are we bringing them democracy?  Or have we unintentionally launched a civil war where the morgues could no longer handle the dozens killed each day, nor can the hospitals treat the civilians caught in the middle of the fray. 

Are we safer today?  The National Intelligence Estimate concluded unequivolcally that the war in Iraq increased the threat of global terrorism.  This is the consensus of all 16 US federal intelligence agencies.

At the Biennial of our Union for Reform Judaism this past year, our movement overwhelmingly passed a resolution calling for the administration to establish an exit strategy.  A poll by the American Jewish Committee found that 70% of American Jews oppose the war in Iraq and only 28% back it. 

That is not to say that we don’t support our troops.  On the contrary, we cherish their courage and value their lives. Our soldiers, enlistees, reserves, National Guard serve under the most challenging of conditions. They are spread thin and doing double deployments.  I can only imagine what it is like to be in 120 degree heat, being shot at by suicide insurgents.  I am not surprised that some of them snapped.  Still, we have zero tolerance for the Abu Ghraib shenanigans and the raping and killing of innocent civilians.  These, thankfully, are the exceptions.  However, the administration wants presidential leeway in interrogating terrorist suspects.  Congress just eliminated mutilation and rape as acceptable torture, now there is an oxymoron.  I’m curious, what is acceptable torture?

We want the rest of our troops home, where they belong.  Kudos to our Social Action Committee for sending care packages to American soldiers serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.

So how will we extricate ourselves from this quagmire?  Certainly, we can’t cut and run, as it were, but neither can we stay the course if that means indefinitely maintaining the disastrous status quo.  For sure, the Iraqi fledgling government will have to step up and demonstrate support of its people, and their troops and police will have to create real stability.

Comic George Carlin quips, “I don’t believe there is any problem in the country, no matter how tough it is, that Americans, when they roll up their sleeves, can’t completely ignore.”  No, the majority of Americans are feeling, “Enough is enough.”  This war already is longer than our war with the Nazis in WWII.  Even a mentch like Joe Lieberman I hope understands now that people in his party and for that matter in both parties are yearning for real solutions in a timely fashion.

Some of us are products of the ‘60’s and the music of war protests still stirs our souls.  Others are advocates of non-violence.  We all have seen the results of Mehatma Gandhi, the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. and Nelson Mandela.  On another Sept. 11, in 1906, a century ago, Gandhi led 3000 Indians on a rally in which they proclaimed that they were willing to go to jail, rather than carry id’s that marked them as inferior, based on their birth.  Martin Luther King reflected the words of the prophet Zechariah, “Not by might, nor by power, but by God’s spirit” will we prevail when he led marches singing, “We shall overcome.” Nelson Mandela was willing to suffer 27 years in prison to see the fall of apartheid in South Africa.

Rosh Hashanah marks the beginning of a new year. This is a time of cheshbon hanefesh, of introspection, of taking inventory, or figuring out strategies to make amends and improve our lives and our world.  Teshuvah means getting back on track. Returning to walking in God’s ways. 

I pray from the depths of my heart that 5767 will be a year of hope, a time when we begin to end the scourge of war, a time to seek peace and pursue it. 

I conclude with the words of Argentinean songwriter Leon Gieco:

All I ask of God is that I not be indifferent to suffering

That parched death doesn’t find me empty and alone without having done enough.

All I ask of God is that I not be indifferent to war.

It’s a great monster that treads hard on the poor innocence of the people.

Amen

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Yom Kippur Morning, 5767

Teshuvah, Learning from Mistakes

     Ladies and gentlemen this is your pilot speaking. I have bad news and good news. The bad news is that I’m afraid the radio compass on our plane is inoperative. I’m not certain which direction we are heading. The good news though is that we are making excellent time.

These Yamim Noraim Days of Awe, are the time for us to pause from the hectic pace of life and get our moral compasses operative so we get back on the right route. We call this teshuvah, often translated as repentance, but literally meaning, “turning around.” A sign in front of a church had it right when it proclaimed, “If you are headed in the wrong direction, God allows u-turns.”

            Doing an about face is not as easy as it may sound. Ancient Chinese proverb says, “The journey of 1,000 miles begins with the first step.” Similarly, when a Chasidic rebbe was asked, “How far is it from East to West?” He replied, “Not far at all, it is just a matter of turning around.” One small motion, but it isn’t always easy to do.

            The first step of teshuvah is realizing we were going the wrong way. This may mean overcoming rationalization and justification for wrongful behavior. We humans are quite adept at being in deep denial.

             Remorse, the 2nd teshuvah step, likewise is not a given. Pope Benedict XVI discovered his regret that Muslims were so upset over his citing a 14th century Byzantine emperor who admonished Islam for adding hate and violence to pre-existing religions. Muslims clearly did not consider that an apology. To many of them it appeared he regretted being caught.

            Pete Rose was expelled from baseball for gambling on games.  He recently signed hundreds of baseballs, “I’m sorry,  Pete Rose.”  By the way he is selling them for $1,000 a piece. Sorry, Pete, try again.

            Mel Gibson on the other hand was obsequious when he apologized to Jews for going into an anti-Semitic rant when he was arrested for driving under the influence. We Jews already knew that Gibson’s passion was anti-Semitism and alcohol, an ugly combination. Let us give him the benefit of the doubt that he is remorseful, and that his apology, teshuvah step 3, is sincere. That brings him to the final step and the most challenging: when presented with opportunities to recommit the offense, to resist the urge.

            How are we doing on our own teshuvah? We too may have bouts of justification and denial, but we also thankfully possess a conscience that makes us feel uneasy and guilty when we do wrong. We may fool some of the people, but in our kishkes, we know when we transgressed. I read that psychologists tell us that up to 70% of all self-talk, our minds at work, is negative. In other words, you tell yourself the things you can’t do, shouldn’t try, aren’t good enough at, or do poorly. Sometimes we may beat up on ourselves too much. Proverbs 23:7 states, “As one thinks in one’s heart, so one is.” It is ok to be aware of our limitations and mistakes, but a good self image confidently considers those problems as challenges to work on.

An unknown author offers us these Lessons of Failure:

Failure does not mean I’m a failure;

It does mean I have not yet succeeded.

 

Failure does not mean I have accomplished nothing;

It does mean I have learned something.

 

Failure does not mean I have been a fool;

It does mean I had enough faith to experiment.

 

Failure does not mean I am inferior;

It does mean I am not perfect.

 

Failure does not mean I have wasted my life;

It does mean that I have an excuse to start over.

 

Failure does not mean that I should give up:

It does mean that I should try harder.

 

Failure does not mean that I will never make it;

It does mean that I need more practice.

After ascending the mountain, the spiritual seekers asked the guru, “How do we become wise?” There was a long pause. Then the teacher replied, “Good choices.” “But teacher, how do we make good choices?”  “Experience,” answered the wise one. “And how do we get experience?” Smiled the guru, “Bad choices.”

Wise people know the growth that comes from challenges even when we do not succeed:

Appearances can be deceiving. There are instances that might seem to indicate tzuros, but in the end could be a mechiah. Consider this story:

The only survivor of a shipwreck washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him, and every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect him from the elements, and to store his few possessions. But then one day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky. The worst had happened; everything was lost. He was stung with grief and anger. “God, how could you do this to me!” he cried. Early the next day, however, he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the island. It had come to rescue him. “We saw your smoke signal,” they replied.

A couple of weeks ago a newborn was abducted by a woman who had just miscarried. The birth parents were praying that their little girl would be returned unharmed. Television news flashed pictures of the adorable baby with the strawberry colored birthmark on her forehead.

Meanwhile, the sister-in-law of the woman who falsely claimed to be the mother, noticed makeup on the baby’s forehead. When she rubbed it off, the strawberry birthmark appeared. The child was returned, and you might say, “saved by her birthmark.”

That which makes us unique and special should be cherished. Senator George Allen of Virginia, a practicing Christian, was asked by a reporter if it were true that his mother was Jewish. He denied it several times, and later claimed he had only recently learned that his mother’s family was a prominent Sephardic Jewish family in Tunisia. I guess the Sephardic or the Tunisian vote is not that large in Virginia.  Allen has more serious problems.  Apparently, he is fond of using the “N” word.

Yom Kippur for all of us is a time to be brutally honest. Where have we been? What have we done? How can we improve? When we sow an action, we reap a habit, when we sow a habit, we reap a character, when we sow a character, we reap a destiny.

I want to conclude this sermon with a guided imagery, inspired by one created by Tamar Frankiel and Judy Greenfield:

Imagine that you are taking a leisurely walk on an Indian Summer day much like today. Although there is a soft breeze, the warmth of the autumn sun feels comforting. Your eyes take in the vibrant array of fall colors in the diverse trees. You sit down on a large rock next to a reflecting pool. You take a long look at your image and wonder how others see you, and how God sees you.

Gently ask, “Have I in anyway harmed myself? Damaged my honor or self esteem? Have I injured in any way family or friends? Have I done it accidentally or willfully?

In the deepest core of your being, ask what makes you feel guilty or ashamed. Focus on just one disappointment, or doubt or guilt. Name the feeling to yourself. For example, do you feel upset that you still occasionally smoke, or  know that you disappoint a relative because you don’t make enough time for him or her. Know in your heart that you are essentially good, in fact very good. You are human, and to err is human.

Now look again into the pool. See your reflection washed with a shower of healing light. Feeling radiant, you say, “Rebono shel olam, Master of the Universe, help me accept myself and learn from my mistakes. I hereby forgive myself for whatever I have done to my body, my mind, my self-esteem, whether accidentally or on purpose, that blemished my divine image and in turn diminished Yours, O God.  Hineni, here I am, renewed. Know that I will try to do better to be the person I am meant to be.

Amen

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Yizkor, 5767

Their Lives Live ON

In a book entitled, Make Me An Instrument of Your Peace, Kent Nerburn tells about one night he’ll never forget. At the time he was a cab driver doing the night shift. He was responding to a 2:30 AM call in a quiet part of town. The building was dark except for a single light. He had assumed he was there to pick up some late night partiers or a workman heading to an early shift at a factory.

To his surprise, a frail elderly woman came to the door. He noticed she had a suitcase so he went to help her. As he opened the door he noticed a curious sight. All the furniture was covered with sheets and in the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and pictures.

Once in the cab, she gave him a slip of paper with the address. She asked if he would drive by the old west side to get there. “That’s not the most direct way,” he commented. She replied, “Oh, I don’t mind. I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.” He reached over and shut off the meter. “What route would you like me to take?”

For the next 2 hours, they drove through the city. First stop, her childhood home, then, the building where she and her husband lived as newlyweds. After which they stopped by the ballroom, where she and her husband often went dancing. They even paused in front of the building where she worked many years. At the first hint of dawn, she suddenly said, “I’m ready; we can go now to the hospice.”

The psalmist stated that the years of our lives are 3 score and 10 or by reason of strength four score. A recent study calculated average life spans by a variety of factors such as ethnicity, regional influences and life style. Truth be told we really don’t know how long we’ll live. What we do know is how we choose to live our lives and the impact that has.

In the Bible Methusela, Noah’s zayde, is said to have lived to be 969. Unfortunately, other than who he begat we know nothing about him.

Sometimes lives are cut short due to disease or circumstance. Yet, some of these people leave a lasting legacy. Alexander the Great lived to be only 33, but he conquered nearly all of the civilized world in his time. More recently, the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. was shot down at age 39 who knows what he might have gone on to accomplish. He would have been 77 today. Still, his dream and his legacy is very much alive. There is an old Yiddish proverb that the only truly dead people are those who have been entirely forgotten.

Last night I spoke about the tragedy of war. Our inability to resolve conflict non-violently has led to and continues to lead to, countless deaths, often of civilians. This past summer as you know, Israel was engaged in battle with Hezbollah, radical Shiite guerrillas in Southern Lebanon. Nearly all Israelis initially favored attacking Hezbollah after they entered Israel on July 12 and killed 8 soldiers and kidnapped 2. However, when the death toll, especially of civilians on both sides was rising, some Israelis began to speak out for a cease fire.

 One was the out spoken, articulate, respected author David Grossman. Instead, the Israel Defense launched a last-minute offensive that cost the lives of 33 Israeli soldiers, including ironically Sergeant Uri Grossman, age 20, son of author David Grossman. When we hear statistics 160 Israelis perished of which 118 were soldiers, or nearly 1000 Lebanese died, nearly all civilians, the numbers are hard to grasp. But when we see photos with names, such as those who perished in Israel over the past 6 years due to the Intifada and the war in Lebanon, we are moved. They are so normal looking- no, beautiful. They could be our neighbor, our relative.

And those Lebanese victims, likewise were someone’s family. It is grossly unfair anytime a person is denied a full life span. At the funeral for his son, David Grossman said, “I will not say anything now about the war in which you were killed. Our family has already lost this war. As for us we will gather ourselves into our pain, surrounded by good friends, cloaked in great love which we feel from so many.”

Grossman went on with words that speak to each of us, how we can find the courage to face loss and go on.

On Saturday night at 2:40 am, our doorbell rang. On the intercom we were told it was someone form the Army, and as I went to open the door, I said to myself – that’s it, my life is over. But five hours later, when Michal and I went into Ruthie’s room (Uri’s sister) and we woke her up to tell her the terrible news, Ruthie cried, and then she said: But we’re going to live, aren’t we? We’ll live and we’ll go for walks like we did before; and I want to continue to sing in the choir. And let’s continue laughing as we always do. And I want to learn to play the guitar.” And we embraced her and said- we will live.

We will take our strength from Uri. He had resources which will keep us going for years. He radiated life and vitality and warmth and love so strongly, that the light of that radiation will continue to shine upon us, even if the star which is the source of that light has now gone out. Our beloved, it was a great privilege to live with you. Thank you for every moment you were ours.

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